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By Sylvie Thrush Marsh

Ah, January. My new favourite month. Having survived the
transition from full-time study into full-time work as an HR
Administrator in 2014, as well as my first 10 months of 40-hour
working weeks, I was ready to relax over the holidays. I spent time
with family and friends, made the most of the glorious Auckland
weather, and reckon I’m ready to dive back into work to make the
most of 2015.

From an employer’s perspective, however, January might be one of
the more volatile months in terms of the employee lifecycle,
particularly with regard to recruitment and retention. Not only
are you looking to replace the staff you lost late last
year, but so is everyone else. Employers are looking, and employees
are looking back.

It’s important to start the New Year off well with your team and
colleagues to help combat any impulses to check if the grass really
is greener over the road (or over the ditch). There are a variety
of tools available to managers who want to improve or maintain the
retention of their teams and, as a recent graduate, the informal
conversations with my manager have been most important for making
sure that we’re both on the same page. I’m talking about the quick
catch ups about how a particular employee could be handled better,
or what projects I want to be involved with and why, the
back-and-forth about career expectations, and the difficulties (and
successes) she’s faced as a woman in our male-dominated
organisation. In short, the conversations that trickle into and
gradually fill the spaces in between formal feedback and assessment
opportunities like annual performance reviews. The conversations
that, from where I’m sitting, look a lot like a mentoring
relationship.

From my perspective as a mentee, there are 5 things I’ve most
appreciated about the mentoring that I’ve received to date.

Gaining an outside perspective

Coming  from a university environment, where giving and
receiving feedback was built into the structure of the experience,
to a work environment where often the only feedback I received
focussed on something went awry made it very hard to gauge my
progress and how I was doing. Sure, as time went by I made fewer
mistakes but I didn’t have a good sense of “big picture” progress.
I couldn’t see if I was improving or if my efforts were having any
effect.

Through our mentoring relationship, my manager was able to
provide an outsider’s perspective on my performance and how I was
doing and she was able to pass on positive feedback from other
managers and colleagues to let me know I was moving forward,
without blowing my ego up to infamous Gen Y proportions. Keep in
mind that your mentees might have a skewed or misplaced view of
themselves and their performance, and they will likely welcome the
chance to touch base with an external voice. You may be able to
offer insights that you have into their place in the organisation
or how they’re tracking against expectations. If they are know that
they’re making progress, they’re less likely to consider moving to
supposedly greener-grassed pastures.

Highlighting issues or situations of interest

I work in HR  in a large multinational company with
multi-thousands of employees, with directives from our
international group to maintain and implement, as well as being the
first port of call for managers and employees in NZ who want to
know what to do, how to do it and why they need to. In the
beginning I was focused on the detail and getting the process
right, from necessity. I was able to ask my colleagues and manager
for their perspective, which helped not only when I made mistakes
with the process but also highlighted additional reasons for doing
things the way that we did them.

As a mentee, being able to talk through issues with someone who
knew the ropes meant I was able to gain different perspectives on
issues, including a broader understanding of why things were the
way they were and how best to navigate those structures. If you are
a mentor, remember that your mentee might not have access to the
big picture, or know enough about the industry or company to have
some context for the reasons behind the way things are. Providing
context and background information is one way of helping them to
make better decisions and feel more confident in their
positions.

Having a go-to person

Having a mentoring relationship with someone, whether it be your
manager or a non-work-related mentor, means that someone has got
your back! Building and developing this relationship has been
invaluable for me in my fledgling career. By respecting my
manager’s time, doing my best to think around a problem if it comes
up, and showing that I’m willing to take feedback on board, I’m
demonstrating that I value our relationship and that she isn’t
frittering away time with me. In turn, she will spend the time to
give me the context of a particular sticking point or disagreement
with managers, talk difficulties out with me, and let me put
forward ideas or solutions for feedback. It’s a two-way street.

If you are mentoring an employee, especially younger or newer
employees, be prepared for them to have lots of questions and to
need a certain degree of close supervision as they find their feet.
We really appreciate someone who understands this and lets us lean
on them in the early days. Having someone you can turn to can often
be the difference between a successful induction and a costly,
short-term misfire hire.

Building a career blueprint

Something else that I have appreciated has been the chance to
ask my mentor about her career choices, what she wants to do next,
how she plans to balance family and work (and the factors she’s
considering when she weighs up the two), and so on. Getting a feel
for someone’s career trajectory is one of the aspects that I would
consider as unique to a mentoring relationship. It is difficult to
find someone whose career you are interested in and who might be
able to offer you pointers and tips, and ask them about what
motivated them to make certain choices or focus on particular
projects, or ask them about their personal life too.

If your mentee asks you these types of questions, it’s likely
that they’re trying on your decisions or motivations for size;
getting a feel for what suits them and how they might like to
conduct themselves over the next five, 10, 20 or 30 years of their
lives. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!

Willingness to adjust a mentoring or communication style

Of course, not all your team members will share my demographic,
or be at my place in their careers and lives. So, the last aspect
of mentoring that has struck me has been my manager asking for
feedback on her management style, and whether she could manage and
relate to me in ways that would better support my work and my
induction into the work place. What a great opening to give
feedback to my manager, and what better way to demonstrate that she
was interested in how best to make our working relationship do
exactly that – work.

If you are mentoring a younger person and feel comfortable
checking with them, seek feedback on the way things have been going
so far. Be open to taking onboard any feedback or preferences that
your mentee may have. You’ll be demonstrating that you care about
their experience and want it to work for both of you, and of course
it’s a developmental opportunity for you too!

If you’re thinking about how to kickstart your New Year, evaluate
the relationships within your team. You never know, there could be
space to adjust the structure, content and dynamic of your
interactions and to tap into the magic of mentoring.

Your mentees will thank you for it.

 

Acknowledgement

After finishing three degrees in five years, Sylvie now works in
human resources for ABB Ltd, an industry leader in power and
automation engineering. She’s a keen runner, reader, film-goer, and
Internet ninja, and can be contacted via email at sylvie.thrushmarsh@nz.abb.com or on LinkedIn at
nz.linkedin.com/in/sylviethrushmarsh/.

Ah, January. My new favourite month. Having
survived the transition from full-time study into full-time
workas an HR Administrator in 2014, as well as my first 10 months of
40-hour working weeks, I was ready torelax over the holidays. I spent time with family and friends,
made the most of the glorious Auckland

weather, and reckon I’m ready to dive back into work to make the
most of 2015.

From an employer’s perspective, however, January might be one of
the more volatile months in terms of

the employee lifecycle, particularly with regard to recruitment
and retention. Not only are you looking to

replace the staff you lost late last year, but so is everyone
else. Employers are looking, and employees are

looking back.

It’s important to start the New Year off well with your team and
colleagues to help combat any impulses to

check if the grass really is greener over the road (or over the
ditch). There are a variety of tools available to

managers who want to improve or maintain the retention of their
teams and, as a recent graduate, the

informal conversations with my manager have been most important
for making sure that we’re both on the

same page. I’m talking about the quick catch ups about how a
particular employee could be handled better,

or what projects I want to be involved with and why, the
back-and-forth about career expectations, and the

difficulties (and successes) she’s faced as a woman in our
male-dominated organisation. In short, the

conversations that trickle into and gradually fill the spaces in
between formal feedback and assessment

opportunities like annual performance reviews. The conversations
that, from where I’m sitting, look a lot

like a mentoring relationship.

From my perspective as a mentee, there are 5 things I’ve most
appreciated about the mentoring that I’ve

received to date.

Gaining an outside perspective

Coming  from a university environment, where giving and
receiving feedback was built into the structure of

the experience, to a work environment where often the only
feedback I received focussed on something

went awry made it very hard to gauge my progress and how I was
doing. Sure, as time went by I made

fewer mistakes but I didn’t have a good sense of “big picture”
progress. I couldn’t see if I was improving or

if my efforts were having any effect.

Through our mentoring relationship, my manager was able to provide
an outsider’s perspective on my

performance and how I was doing and she was able to pass on
positive feedback from other managers and

colleagues to let me know I was moving forward, without blowing my
ego up to infamous Gen Y

proportions. Keep in mind that your mentees might have a skewed or
misplaced view of themselves and

their performance, and they will likely welcome the chance to
touch base with an external voice. You may

be able to offer insights that you have into their place in the
organisation or how they’re tracking against

expectations. If they are know that they’re making progress,
they’re less likely to consider moving to

supposedly greener-grassed pastures.

Highlighting issues or situations of interest

I work in HR  in a large multinational company with
multi-thousands of employees, with directives from our

international group to maintain and implement, as well as being
the first port of call for managers and

employees in NZ who want to know what to do, how to do it and why
they need to. In the beginning I was

focused on the detail and getting the process right, from
necessity. I was able to ask my colleagues and

manager for their perspective, which helped not only when I made
mistakes with the process but also

highlighted additional reasons for doing things the way that we
did them.

As a mentee, being able to talk through issues with someone who
knew the ropes meant I was able to gain

different perspectives on issues, including a broader
understanding of why things were the way they were

and how best to navigate those structures. If you are a mentor,
remember that your mentee might not have

access to the big picture, or know enough about the industry or
company to have some context for the

reasons behind the way things are. Providing context and
background information is one way of helping

them to make better decisions and feel more confident in their
positions.

Having a go-to person

Having a mentoring relationship with someone, whether it be your
manager or a non-work-related mentor,

means that someone has got your back! Building and developing this
relationship has been invaluable for

me in my fledgling career. By respecting my manager’s time, doing
my best to think around a problem if it

comes up, and showing that I’m willing to take feedback on board,
I’m demonstrating that I value our

relationship and that she isn’t frittering away time with me. In
turn, she will spend the time to give me the

context of a particular sticking point or disagreement with
managers, talk difficulties out with me, and let me

put forward ideas or solutions for feedback. It’s a two-way
street.

If you are mentoring an employee, especially younger or newer
employees, be prepared for them to have

lots of questions and to need a certain degree of close
supervision as they find their feet. We really

appreciate someone who understands this and lets us lean on them
in the early days. Having someone you

can turn to can often be the difference between a successful
induction and a costly, short-term misfire hire.

Building a career blueprint

Something else that I have appreciated has been the chance to ask
my mentor about her career choices,

what she wants to do next, how she plans to balance family and
work (and the factors she’s considering

when she weighs up the two), and so on. Getting a feel for
someone’s career trajectory is one of the

aspects that I would consider as unique to a mentoring
relationship. It is difficult to find someone whose

career you are interested in and who might be able to offer you
pointers and tips, and ask them about what

motivated them to make certain choices or focus on particular
projects, or ask them about their personal life

too.

If your mentee asks you these types of questions, it’s likely that
they’re trying on your decisions or

motivations for size; getting a feel for what suits them and how
they might like to conduct themselves over

the next five, 10, 20 or 30 years of their lives. Imitation is the
sincerest form of flattery!

Willingness to adjust a mentoring or communication style

Of course, not all your team members will share my demographic, or
be at my place in their careers and

lives. So, the last aspect of mentoring that has struck me has
been my manager asking for feedback on her

management style, and whether she could manage and relate to me in
ways that would better support my

work and my induction into the work place. What a great opening to
give feedback to my manager, and

what better way to demonstrate that she was interested in how best
to make our working relationship do

exactly that – work.

If you are mentoring a younger person and feel comfortable
checking with them, seek feedback on the way

things have been going so far. Be open to taking onboard any
feedback or preferences that your mentee

may have. You’ll be demonstrating that you care about their
experience and want it to work for both of you,

and of course it’s a developmental opportunity for you too!

If you’re thinking about how to kickstart your New Year, evaluate
the relationships within your team. You

never know, there could be space to adjust the structure, content
and dynamic of your interactions and to

tap into the magic of  mentoring. Your mentees will thank you
for it.

After finishing three degrees in five years, Sylvie now works in
human resources for

ABB Ltd, an industry leader in power and automation engineering.
She’s a keen

runner, reader, film-goer, and Internet ninja, and can be
contacted via email at

sylvie.thrushmarsh@nz.abb.com or on LinkedIn at

nz.linkedin.com/in/sylviethrushmarsh/

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